Lulu and I just filmed our first Accessible Intercourse podcast, wherein we answer all your burning disability, sex, and relationship questions.

This week: the political correctness of using the word "lame"; the disability coolness hierarchy; and whether crips prefer dating other crips.

Send your questions in here, and expect more controversy every two weeks.



TRANSCRIPT

Toshio-Is it OK for me to use the word ‘lame’ to refer to something that’s sucks? And if not, uh, can you suggest a word to replace it.

Lulu-That’s a good question, uh

T-I have to say that sometimes when you’re not around I have...I’ve used the word lame, like to refer to something that sucks. Just cause it’s like… It’s hard to find

L-It’s catchy…

T-…a perfect replacement

T-It’s one syllable, super easy to use

L-Yeah, I know…

T-Rolls off the tongue

L-I know disabled people who say lame

T-(takes a swig of beer) OK

L-I don’t, not anymore also just cause I’m kinda over it. I feel like it’s been used

T-OK

L-Sooo much

T-It’s kinda 90’s

L-I say ‘whack’, which is also very old school

T-That’s yeah…

L-But it doesn’t have the disability connotation, so I don’t know. I would say, lame isn’t super offensive but I don’t use it.

T-In the disabled community what disabilities are considered the coolest, and which are the least cool. Abled body people rate, like what they would rather have… in terms

L-Right,

T-…of a disability…

L-People always do that anyway. Would you rather be blind or deaf

T-(beer swigs) hmm that’s true

L-Abled bodied people, that’s their favorite game, drinking game

T-(Laughs)

L-Sooo

T-I’d probably played it like once or twice in my lifetime

L-Yeah, I think your experiences shape you. And I think people who kind are oppressed or marginalized are gonna, maybe have a lot interesting experiences and stories and have a wider, uh, girth of experiences. That’s the wrong word. A wide array

T-Depth…

L-A wide array

T-That works

L-…of experiences. So, I wouldn’t say there was a ‘coolest’ disability. Unless you’re talking about me

T-Uh-huh.

L-And what’s the worse disability…

T-The opposite of you

L-Yes

T-OK

L-Good

T-Do disabled people tend to date other disabled people?

L-I have never dated anyone who was physically disabled. I’ve dated people with learning disabilities.

T-K…

L-Um, I would certainly like to, date someone who’s also disabled 'cause…

T-'Cause you have like some of the same experiences…draw from some of the same experiences

L-Exactly

T-…like if I was to date another Asian, which I actually did once

L-Oh yeah?

T-And I told him that I was dating him because he was Asian and I’d never tried it before and

L-Did that kill the mood

T-Yeah, that didn’t really go over very well

L-I bet it did. I would love to date a disabled person… and I think uh

T-(beer swig)

L-…disabled people can be really sexy and wonderful

T-What about a disabled Asian person?

L-No doubt

T-No doubt? Alright.

L-Call me, I’m single

T-Alright well all you disabled Asian people out there, somebody’s available. I guess that brings us to the end

L-Of Accessible Intercourse

T-Yes, tune in next time, whenever next time is

L-Soon

T-Peace